You feel the trauma in your body, your physiology, like an addiction holding you in a stuck state of pain and avoidance and hope You continue to tell yourself; if you stand your ground, hold boundaries, you will get the abuser to modify their behavior towards you permanently You tell yourself if you can just …
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Narcissists attach but they do not connect because they cannot bond. The connection you feel with a narcissist is with yourself; your strong desire to be loved and have the inspirational love you thought you were getting in the beginning. My clients often talk about their so-called connection with the narcissist. They argue, “Oh we …
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7 Ways to Survive a Narcissist Learn to say NO – Narcissists hate no. They will throw it around endlessly but you better not. Say no to being dragged in to defending yourself over and over. No more defending about anything. Walk away. Re-write your life story. Whether your story is recent or life-long, …
You Aren’t Chocolate. Stop Trying to Make Everyone Happy. Read More »
7 Ways to Survive a Narcissist Learn to say NO – Narcissists hate no. They will throw it around endlessly but you better not. Say no to be dragged in to defending yourself over and over. No more defending about anything. Walk away. Re-write your life story. Whether your story is recent or life-long, …
I always ask my clients if they can determine which parent, if they had two parents, was the me-focused parent (narcissist) and which parent was the others-focused parent (the giver or co-dependent). If you find yourself feeling stuck with a true narcissist, you were likely raised with narcissism in some way. Some practitioners will …
The Narcissism/Co-Dependent Theory – The Answer to Understanding Narcissists? Read More »
Why Do People Get Married? They want to be in a lasting relationship They meet and feel a connection They begin to plant loving seeds via interest They begin to grow roots via the seeds of interest and begin trust, support, respect They begin to plant seeds in sex for safety in vulnerability and another …
The narcissist likes no one. Everything they do is based around getting people who don’t really know them to like THEM! No one who truly knows a narcissist likes them, ever! The narcissist knows it. They don’t care. What matters to the narcissist is maintaining the delusion that they are addicted to of looking amazing …
For Narcissists, the Reason is NOT Because They Like You! Read More »
Have you been trying to determine if you are finding yourself in a romantic relationship with a narcissist? Don’t be fooled by everything you are reading online. Not all narcissists cheat and not in every relationship. If yours is not cheating, is does not mean he/she is not a narcissist. It simply means they are …
Yes! That is correct! The narcissist will not allow you to be happy unless he/she is the reason you are feeling happy. Your happiness must be under their control at all times. Forget about experiencing any happiness in front of them that is caused by anything or anyone other than them. If you show joy, …
Forget About Being Happy Unless I Say So! Love, Your Narcissist Read More »
Dear Narcissist, I recognize that you go through the honeymoon period after you have been emotionally/mentally abusive and/or behaved violently and you want to make it up to me. You do wonderful things, tell me how much you love me, buy me things, and think of places I would like to go that you think …