“Respect---like love, trust and sex...must be earned over a long period of time. The narcissist will move at the speed of light in the beginning. There's no taking one's time. He is a master manipulator. He will fool you -- during your love "delirium" with him -- that he respects you. He puts you on a pedestal fooling you that he is earning the imperative aspects that create a safe, healthy, and comfy relationship. He observes you in every way. Once he sees you are believing in his feigned love, trust, respect, and especially the sex -- sex that is an enormously feigned interest in YOU -- he will rip the respect out of the equation, and the abuse game is on! You will read all over online that this happens when the narcissist realizes you are not the perfect person they thought or wanted you to be. Don't be fooled by that!!! The narcissist always knows exactly how to get what they want. And what they want has nothing to do with thinking you were perfect and then no longer thinking you were perfect. They knew all along, but they always have an agenda and you were meeting it. They just wanted to play with you like a little child who is innocent of all responsibilities -- playing in their delusional little world. Once they are done with that, get ready for some gaslighting abuse, chaos, hostility, heartache, isolation, threats, evil, smothering, blame games, debilitation, exhaustion, manipulation, and downright torture like you never knew existed." -- Yvette The Coach